Sleeping in separate beds seems to be the new phenomenom in the last 10 years according to a recentp article in the NY Times called "Married but Sleeping Alone." More and more couples are starting to sleep in separate rooms because of easily treated issues such as snoring, reading or watching tv before bed.
While this is new to the rest of the world, in my family, many of the women slept in separate beds from their husbands. When my grandfather was still alive, he slept in a separate room from my grandmother. Many of my great aunts (my grandmother's sisters) also sleep in separate rooms from their spouses. Even my mom sleeps in her own room from my step dad. While I don't know what everyone's excuse is, my mom snores and she says she doesn't like my step dad waking her up in the middle of the night because he can't sleep.
But is sleeping apart really better? My mom thinks so because she gets uninterrupted sleep. It's a win-win situation for both of them but according to psychiatrist Paul C. Rosenblatt, "co-sleeping is better for your health." According to some of his patients, certain medical symptoms that can be detected by a sleeping partner would go undetected if their partner wasn't there in bed with them. Not only that but it's better for your sex life and better for a woman's sense of security. If sleeping together is better, then why are people doing less and less of it?
This is my first comment, ever. Please excuse me if it is irrelevant to your post. That being said...More and more I am seeing people become anti-social. I mean with everything from staying online instead of going out- to texting instead of actually speaking to people face-2-face. So yeah, I guess it is common now to the point where it is normal for married couples to sleep in separate beds/rooms. My parent's and family, as far as I know, still and have always slept together. That's what is unique, right? I mean we sleep with only one other person in life, romantically, I mean. What happened to accepting someone for how they are. If we can't sleep next to the person we love because of a problem or deficiency, then the actual union and bond that working things out together creates, is forever lost. Hence, it is written about for a reason...
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